Christine Miller

Why Attend a Resourceful Masterclass?

Why Attend a “How to Live Resourcefully” Masterclass?

Our prime intention with
“How to Live Resourcefully” Masterclasses
is to work with all who attend in exploring:

Who you are
- How you function as a unique, remarkable individual
- What valuable skills, talents and experience you have already
- Why you might not be fulfilling your true potential – yet

You can then discover
- What you can do to enhance your sense of self, and
- How you can change and improve what isn’t working for you.

You will find out
- What is important to you
- What your purpose is.

Our aim is to build your confidence and belief, and enhance your wellbeing and sense of self-worth, thus leading towards greater personal power and enhanced performance in all areas of life.

You will specifically learn how to access your calm centre, and how to use breathing for state control. You will begin to learn to control your inner world, and therefore your response to outside influences, by accessing a resourceful state, which re-connects you with your personal excellence. This is one of the first, vital steps in building authentic self – esteem. You will also learn the secrets of creating the future of your dreams, through learning the simple steps to an achievable outcome.

You’ll have great fun, participating in this active day which will have you learning and experiencing new techniques for transforming your life and putting them into practice immediately – so you get real results for yourself.

Only you will know exactly what attending the workshop will mean to you – so keep that thought in mind when you decide what you really want in life and come and discover what could happen when you let go of your limitations.

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How to Build Your Self Worth

“Dear Christine,

Progress in my life has been dogged by very low self esteem – always as a child put down by my mother and lately by my husband.
Do I have to go through life like this? Help!”

PJ, London, UK

Dear PJ,

First of all, I’d like to commend you for writing to ask for help. That’s an excellent step towards taking charge of your life now, and becoming more confident in asking for your needs to be met.

Also, acknowledging that sometimes you feel less good about yourself is another healthy step towards building your self worth and love for yourself. And, be assured, if you decide to do so, then you can certainly change the way you go through life.

Now I’m going to make an assumption that since you’re asking for advice, you have decided that you want to make changes in the way you are going through your life. I’m also going to assume that you’re prepared to consider the suggestions that may be offered to you – and when you choose, to take action on those suggestions.

As I can’t ask you directly how you would define self-esteem, then let me describe what self-esteem means to me both professionally and personally.

It’s the way you feel about yourself. It’s how much you feel you are worth, (which is why I prefer to call it ‘self-worth’), how prepared you are to accept yourself as a human being who, by definition, is not perfect. How easily you can experience yourself as “okay” and “good enough” – even when you make mistakes or have uncomfortable emotions and experiences. Perhaps even accepting that it’s fine on occasion to have emotions such as anger and sadness – because sometimes family life has imposed conditions on us which have led us to suppress one emotion and substitute it with another – anger masquerading as resentment, for example.

Many of the patterns we live in our lives we learn as children, and some we acquire later in life. The good thing about this is that having learned these responses, when we begin to notice they no longer serve us, we can also unlearn them, and acquire new ways of dealing with our lives. All these decisions and beliefs about ourselves are created within us – and from within, equally, we can recreate new, more appropriate ones.

PJ, since you are becoming more aware of yourself in relation to others, perhaps it’s time for you to develop a different image of yourself, one where youare in control of yourself and make choices based on your needs, desires and interests. Where your past experience of your mother and your present experience with your husband diminish in the influence they exert over your feelings towards yourself, because you have taken charge of your own responses. And where you can then value yourself as the unique, fascinating being that you already are, and celebrate the potential you undoubtedly have to develop still further.

So how might you achieve such a change? There are, of course, many ways open to you in the self-help arena. Books, tapes, seminars, coaching, counselling….whatever you do, the only thing that will bring results is taking actionon and with whatever you read, hear, see or experience.

I believe that an important first step might be for you to create for yourself an inner retreat, a place where you can calmly consider yourself and rediscover a sense of your own potential – a “resourceful state”.

So, find yourself a peaceful room where you won’t be disturbed for a few minutes, turn off the phones, sit down comfortably and feel the chair beneath your legs, the floor under your feet. Then close your eyes, relax, take your shoulders and shrug them up to your ears, then let them gently fall back down, allow your head to rotate gently on your neck a couple of times. Now, think of one of the most wonderful moments in your life, a moment when you were really excited, when you knew you could do anything….Really get the feeling, be there having the experience, see what you saw, hear what you heard, notice what you noticed…..Then step outside and take a look at yourself, make the image just perfect for you, in sights, sounds and feelings, then step back inside again and experience the feelings. Now remember to mentally note that wonderful feeling. Enjoy it for a few moments more……

When you open your eyes again, notice how calm you feel, and how you are able to control that inner landscape of your mind. Practice this resourceful state often: at least once a day. Many people have found it helps them to identify what they want in their lives, and to feel stronger and more empowered whilst they decide. Remember that you can feel wonderful, and if you can feel wonderful in one situation, you can feel the same in another – take that sense of your self-worth with you, and build the life you want for yourself, knowing that growth and change are yours.

Love and Good luck on your journey….

Christine

Response

Dear Christine,

Firstly thank you for the excellent service I have received. You have achieved what I thought would be virtually impossible on the net – a personal one to one feeling that you were there just for ME.

Your reply has helped considerably, I have already been able to make some significant changes and move in a better direction in my life. For the first time I feel an inner strength and confidence growing to enable me to move forward.

My grateful thanks to the you – I will certainly be recommending Christine Miller and the Resourceful State to my friends.

Yours sincerely

Overcoming Depression

“Dear Christine,

I saw a special about Terry Bradshaw who has depression and I read a book by William Styron on his depression. This morning I felt like I could not bear to work today. I did and feel fine now but it is a common thing for me. I don’t want to take pills but I will try it. I would like to know if there is something I can do to avoid this incapacitating reticence to do anything.”

BG, Canton, TX, USA

Dear BG,

First of all, BG, I’m assuming that you have checked with your doctor to make sure that there are no underlying physical conditions which might lead to your feeling reticent to do anything. If you have the physical all-clear, then, because, as you say, it is a common thing for you to feel that you can’t bear to work, perhaps your doctor could refer you for counselling to help you identify and resolve what may be underlying your feelings.

I am wondering, have you experienced any recent changes in your sleeping patterns, your eating habits (either over or under eating), your use of alcohol or other stimulants; do you have a tendency to sigh a lot, to cry a lot, to withdraw from friends and family and feel unloved? These are some of the possible signs of depression, but remember that almost everyone experiences mood changes and periods of feeling “low” in response to life’s normal challenges, and they pass quite quickly. It’s when the conditions are severe and/or persistent that therapy or medication might be necessary. Sometimes, there’s an unrealistic expectation that we “should” love life and be happy, energetic and fulfilled at all times – but if you’ve just lost a loved one or maybe experienced some mental or physical trauma, then a period of reflection, of mourning, of adjustment is not only necessary but desirable.

I’m curious about how long you have been experiencing these feelings, and if you have experienced a recent trigger in the form of a major life event, such as a bereavement or loss through divorce. After such events it can take a long time for recovery to take place, and strong emotions are quite normal during these times. Talking with a trusted friend or relative can help to alleviate the burden – the old adage that ‘a trouble shared is a trouble halved’ has much truth in it. A counsellor or therapist would fill that role for you, also, if you prefer to keep your inner ponderings confidential. And if you can find no reason, and your feelings have been present for a long period, then it would certainly be advisable to seek a professional helper.

Perhaps, BG, you might ask yourself where this reticence, this incapacity comes from, what does it mean, and what purpose does it serve? What is it that you are not paying attention to in your life that your feelings of incapacitation are guiding you to attend to? What do you have in your life that you no longer want? What don’t you have in your life that you would like to be there? What steps can you take to make the changes that will create the conditions which will allow your greater fulfillment?

I also wonder how you relate to your work, your workplace and your workmates. Do you perhaps work alone, at home or in your office, and rely on your own company for motivation and encouragement? Is there something about your current work which causes you to avoid engaging with it? If you are involved with a creative profession, there can be a loneliness and reluctance which are necessary to the process of conceiving original work, and many artists experience a stage of reluctance before they find themselves in flow and being productive. Many of the great artists and performers of the world – Claude Monet, Sylvia Plath, Ernest Hemingway, Marilyn Monroe, Truman Capote, to name but a few – have suffered from depression, and the understanding of this condition is growing all the time.

If it were to prove that you do suffer from depression, there are things you can do to help yourself. You can start by keeping fit and well, rested and well-nourished. (Exercise releases “feel good” pheromones which enhance you mood, for example.) There are proven talking therapies, which can intervene and help you modify your responses. There are of course pills, as well, which your doctor may recommend as a measure to help you in the short term. What you decide to do will also depend on your assessment of yourself and the steps you are prepared to take in feeling better about yourself. For that is where you are in control, and the route you take is under your own direction.

Many of my clients, whatever issues they present with, find that writing is a superb therapy in itself. Perhaps you can keep a diary or journal of your daily moods and their relationship to your activities. An illuminating pattern may emerge, which will give you insight into, and possibly even assist in resolving, the triggers for your incapacitation. And writing an essay or a short story about your life as it is now and as you envisage it as an ideal can be a delightfully liberating experience in re-authoring yourself. Whilst you are deciding, such steps as have been suggested here may give you some inner peace and a calm place from which you can move to find what you want in your life.

And remember, as someone once said to me:

“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance”

I wish you contentment and the resolve to change that which is within your power to achieve the happy and active life you desire.

Love

Christine

Response:

Dear Christine,

I want to thank you all for your insights and help. I didn’t expect anything so thorough but I learned a lot.

I am an artist and my work is important to me. I want everything to be great. I do fear failure but I love the work and the opportunity to feel very strongly about it. Maybe that has something to do with it. I know I want approval and I work a little too hard to get it. I don’t know why I want approval.

Talking it out would help I am beginning to see. Your generosity with your time is truly appreciated. The bad thing about it is I don’t really want to do anything about it for fear I will just start something I don’t finish again. Paintings are the only thing in my life I have ever finished. Well one other thing. I was a single parent (father) for my two boys from the time they were 3 and 4 years old. They are grown and gone now, for several years. I have time to do a lot of work just don’t have the passion. I guess I am finally feeling mortal.

Much love
BG

Motivation and Zest for Life

“Dear Christine,

I have read several self help books. Tried several techniques. On many occasions have attempted to start a journal, hoping to work on goals, self esteem and prosperity creation.
However good a start I make I find it so difficult to keep motivated, my self doubt creeps in. Being motivated and having enthusiasm for things in life has been a great problem for me since the loss of both my parents and my partner over a period of eight months. Any advice on how I can regain my zest and love for life? I have tried many things all to no avail: is there any hope for me?” JR, Durham, UK

Dear JR

First of all, allow me to express my sympathy for your loss of your parents and your partner over a very short period of time. Such loss certainly requires a period of mourning and readjustment which will not necessarily be swift. It is perfectly normal and even desirable to have many feelings – of sadness, loneliness and even hopelessness – when faced with the gaps in our lives left by the departure of loved ones, whether through death or separation. Acknowledging and even welcoming these feelings is an important part of the process of recovery, and being able to hold such feelings and work with them whilst also moving through them to acceptance is probably one of the key factors in returning to a more joyful life.

You don’t mention how long ago you experienced these losses, and each person has a different time scale for mourning. Cultural background can influence the way we deal with bereavement, with certain societies encouraging visible, audible public expression of sorrow, and others choosing a quiet, private and internal way of grieving.

For some, grief is immediate and sharply felt, expressed spontaneously and freely. For others, the sense of loss creeps more slowly, perhaps only hitting home some weeks or months after the bereavement. And there are always those moments of recall, the promptings of a familiar sound, sight or place, the event or occasion when the person’s absence is strongly felt, the shock of their habitual presence being no longer there. So be kind to yourself and accept that what you experience may be the natural way your body, heart and soul respond to changes which have come from events beyond your control.

Take all the time you need to grieve. Your parents were with you all your life – it would be unrealistic not to feel their absence acutely for a period of time, and your partner was also a key part of your life – it is acknowledged that it can take many years to come to terms with the death of a partner, so take your time and value the personal growth you can experience from this process. Get some help from a bereavement counsellor if you would like someone to talk to. CRUSE in the UK specialise in bereavement issues, offering free advice and support. (www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk)

These events, your losses, were beyond your control – you can, however, now start to make a conscious decision about how you respond to the feelings which they have led you to experience. If you are ready to move forward, holding dear the precious memories of your loved ones, and allowing the feelings their loss has created in you to be a resource of strength and determination, then you can start to change and regain your motivation and zest for life.

Acknowledge to yourself that it’s okay to feel sad sometimes, that you can be safely sad, and that you can also enjoy life’s pleasures and joys alongside the sadness. Your respect for your loved ones does not mean you have to deprive yourself of joy – you can better honour their memory by living a full and richly rewarding life which is a testimony to their positive influences on your development.

Take some time to consider what you really want – if you really want to be happy, then the choice to feel happiness lies within you. You have demonstrated by asking these questions that you have sensitivity and awareness, that you know that the answer truly lies within. Develop that ability to look within, and accept yourself as a whole and sensitive person who is capable of deep feeling and unlimited growth. Take a quiet, reflective moment and ask yourself if it is alright for you to experience that which you desire – whatever it may be – and pay attention to the spontaneous response you get.

Make a definite decision to look for the positive in whatever happens to you – what strength and knowledge can you draw from your life experiences? Which people can you attract into your life to share and enhance your world? Create your ideal in your mind, make it as vivid as the most compelling film you have ever seen, the most riveting novel you have ever read, and allow yourself to start living the possibility – remembering that all your emotions are valid, and that there will be times when life’s natural events lead to feelings which modern society can tend to disown.

Although love can bring sadness and loss, the true joy lies in knowing that your strength increases through exposure to the full range of a life well lived – including the disappointment, confusion and unexpected results which offer the greatest lessons.

Hope is always present in our lives, if we choose it so – you can be, do and have whatever you want, know that you deserve your heart’s desire – and you can then respond in the way that best fulfils your needs. I wish you a joyful journey into a future filled with rich experience as you start to explore the map of your life – one which you can create and recreate as you tread more lightly into the world.

Christine

Coaching & Mentoring

Resourceful Coaching & Mentoring with Christine Miller MA FRSA

With a varied and successful career across a range of roles and sectors over 25 years, Christine Miller now focuses mainly on developing leadership, encouraging personal growth and fostering untapped potential in others.

A coach and mentor for almost twenty years, Christine has trained extensively through various disciplines in human potential, coaching, leadership development and psychology, including Solutions Focused, Transpersonal, Clean Language, NLP and Person-centred, ultimately developing her own Resourceful Intelligence (RQ) methodology and programmes through a two year Masters degree in Psychology which was awarded a distinction.

This variety and rigour means she can offer a comprehensive approach which covers any issues clients may have in their business and personal lives, and she is committed to and passionate about helping people achieve their true potential.

Her breadth of knowledge, experience and empathy enable her to carefully elicit and understand her clients’ needs. From there, she rapidly creates a fertile space of trust and caring where they explore their current state, future outcomes and essential actions for personal and professional growth and achievement of their desired goals.

As an entrepreneur, consultant and business owner, who has also spent time in the corporate environment heading large teams, Christine clearly sees the challenges facing executives and leaders in positions of great responsibility, and the pressures they experience. Her strategic thinking capabilities, creativity, compassion and vision lend powerful insights to the coaching and mentoring experience she offers.

She believes in the vital importance of effective communication, openness, authenticity, and in identifying values, meaning and purpose in life. This enables her clients to gain clarity, build better relationships, have greater engagement, and live in richer more fulfilled ways so that they can express their potential, love what they do, and enjoy the successful and well-rounded lives they desire.

Christine acted as Principal of Erickson College in London for three years, bringing their Executive Coaching and Leadership Development programmes to the UK in 2004. She is currently working with the Centre for Progressive Leadership at City Business School, London, where she is a Fellow, on advancing the agenda for transforming 21st Century Leadership and Management.

Please contact Christine for an initial exploratory chat via the schedule or contact forms below.

What People Say About Christine Miller

“Your questions provoke many new thoughts and creative ideas, you are an ‘agent provocateur’, and in our conversations you are able to reach parts no-one else does.”
Tony Buzan, Multi-million bestselling author of over 90 books, speaker and inventor of Mind Maps, the world’s foremost expert on thinking visually, and a leading lecturer on the brain and learning.

I spent an inspiring afternoon with Christine, and her magic for me is that her guidance appears effortless – to the point I felt that I was coming up with all these wonderful visions on my own. In fact, it was Christine’s caring and intuitive guidance gently taking me to a place I would never have reached without her. Those who know Christine already will understand me when I say that with Christine’s help I have seen a realistic vision of my own future. Thanks Christine – and I look forward to working with you for a long time to come.
Richard Flewitt, Business Video Producer, New Edge

Christine is seriously well connected to leading humans all over the world.
Hugely progressive individual: Well informed, insightful.
She listens with care and she offers wise words after deep thought.
I can’t recommend her enough.
Thomas Power , Chairman, Ecademy

I had a wonderful coaching experience with Christine. She rapidly created a safe, trusting space with ease which felt very connected, from there anything was possible. It was both a connection of spirit, almost beyond words and time, while also being very grounded, staying with real issues. This allowed me to be able to access my knowing and find my own solutions. It was a really spiritual experience and, in my experience, one that is all too rare!”
Tiffany Gaskell MBA CPCC, Executive Director, Performance Consultants International

Christine is a remarkable and effective communicator who is able within normal conversation to draw the very best of me out. Through the simple use of inquiry, gentle challenge and feedback, she proves to be incisive and directive towards my better understanding of self and situation. Each time we talk, work together or enjoy the other’s company, Christine always delivers the beauty of a well-trained intellect and systems aware thought process; she is one clever lady!
Benn Abdy-Collins, Medical Herbalist | Well-Being Facilitator | Mentor & Coach | Speaker | Facilitator | Writer

Thank you for your warmth and insight, your words brought tears to my eyes and allowed me to see what I can do to change the issues which have been haunting me for so long.
A.P., Coach, London

Over the past several months Christine and I have engaged in meaningful life and business related conversations. Enlightening and inspirational, Christine’s style of coaching and mentoring is creative, intuitive and futuristic. She is ethical, has integrity and respected by colleagues worldwide who seek her wisdom and viewpoint. Christine’s understanding and knowledge of the intricacies in global business is exemplary. I highly recommend Christine Miller as a Mentor and Consultant.
Alana Mitchell, Mentor, Business, Life & Executive Coach, Consultant & Inspirational Speaker

It’s scary having conversations with some people at some times, in part because of the subject and in part because of what you discover about yourself or your business. But it’s also highly enlightening to find someone who both appears to have capability, and actually can. What you will find when engaging Christine is an all-round ability, and one which will focus but which can move between her broad and diverse capabilities. We have never yet talked about the other side of her interests, but in business her people focused centre and base training, combined with practical business running experience and strategic insight, has brought me both personal and business value. I thoroughly recommend that if you think Christine might be able to help you or your business, that you pick-up the phone sooner rather than later – you will not be disappointed!
Ian R. McAllister, MBA, Recruiter and Professional CV Writer

I’ve learned that I’m very important. I’m not just somebody who walks around everyday doing nothing. I’m really important. That as well.
K.M., 10 year-old coaching client

The time I spent with you was really valuable and useful – I’ve seen a lot of coaches and therapists, and what we did together was a real eye-opener for me – I learned a lot about myself.
K.A., Journalist & Broadcaster, London

In half an hour with you, I’ve moved further than I had in hours of therapy before, you have really made a huge difference.
M. P- B., teacher & bereavement counselling client, Kent

Thank you for helping me to break through, it was a truly profound experience, I have worked with a number of therapists, and never really got to the heart of what was holding me back.
Beverley J., coaching client, Hertfordshire

I left you feeling lighter and clearer, and the experience of dealing with the feelings about my childhood seemed to let me really be myself, maybe for the first time in 15 years.
Charles B., coaching client, London

Christine has not only quality in her work but every ounce of her being is designed to make human potential increase. Very few people have this gift. One in a million.
Nigel Risner, CEO, Nigel Risner, Britain’s Top Motivational Speaker, Winning Business Magazine; Academy for Chief Executives Speaker of the Year

“Helping people to grow into their potential and have a balanced life is one of my major passions.
I always say, though, that only you, yourself, can choose to make the changes needed to achieve what you want.

I’m there to help and support, and if you come to work with me you learn quickly that you are the one in charge of your own life!

That way YOU hold the power to be, do and have whatever you desire.”

Please schedule an appointment below to talk about the options available.

Strategic, Executive and Business Coaching

For professional and personal development.

Small Business Coaching and Training – The Resourceful Entrepreneur

Designed to liberate the very best in you so you can become who you want to be in your business and life.
Based on Christine’s ‘Resourceful Entrepreneur’ book

Career Coaching – The Resourceful Candidate

For you if you want to start your career or change your job and find your ideal role but aren’t sure how.

Special Coaching Programmes for Children & Young People

Based on Christine’s extensive research and practice and featured in The Economist Guide to Coaching & Mentoring. (PDF)

For all coaching and mentoring enquiries, please fill in the contact form below or click on the button to schedule an appointment.

Comments or questions are welcome.

About Us

The Resourceful State is led by Christine Miller, M.A.

Christine has a first degree in Linguistics and she is also a qualified teacher. From teaching, she moved into a career in industry as a research consultant to use her languages and to travel, for which she developed a continuing passion. She has lived in France, Greece, Scandinavia, Holland and Australia, developing an understanding of cultural difference and an awareness of the challenges posed by frequent change.

Christine has held senior management posts in marketing and training, for major UK public companies, where she discovered that her skills and passion lay in helping people uncover their potential to perform at their best, to experience personal development, and true “emotional intelligence”.

Having discovered this strong interest in coaching and counselling, she decided to retrain as a therapist, and she has continued to attend training to develop her skills and knowledge throughout the past six years. She has recently completed two years research for a Master’s degree in Counselling Practice, for which she was awarded a distinction. This study explored the effects of resourceful states of mind on the outcomes of counselling and the relationship between therapists and their clients. The research will be published as a book later this year.

Working in private practice as a counsellor, coach and mentor to children and young people, with clients ranging from Primary age to University level students and adults, Christine deals with a variety of issues from bereavement and loss to self-esteem and learning difficulties. She will also offer counselling online if preferred.

Additionally, she runs ‘Resourceful State’ seminars and workshops in personal growth and development, and trainings for other therapists and counsellors in the techniques she has developed. To quote Christine:

“Helping people to grow into their potential and have a balanced life is one of my major passions. I always say, though, that only you, yourself, can choose to make the changes needed to achieve what you want. I’m there to help and support, and if you come to work with me you learn quickly that you are the one in charge of your own life! That way YOU hold the power to be, do and have whatever you desire.”

Resourceful State also works in affiliation with a group of highly qualified and experienced trainers and therapists with a range of specialisations from Hypnotherapy, Brief Therapy, Performance Coaching, Clean Language, Metaphor and Storytelling to Emotional Intelligence, Special Needs and Whole Brain Learning, who contribute their skills and knowledge as required.

Married with two children, Christine is based in the UK in London, although she travels internationally to train others and to give workshops and seminars.

Welcome to the Resourceful State

Just imagine …

having the ability to access an empowering state of mind to call on whenever you wish, when you are under pressure, experiencing emotional challenges or considering life-changing decisions

The Resourceful State offers an innovative approach to therapy, personal development and self help utilising resourceful states of mind. It is a concept based on the idea that we can activate resourceful states of mind to enhance our self esteem and emotional intelligence.

Based on extensive research, and carefully developed and tested in her practice by Christine Miller, MA, these ideas and strategies will be useful to everyone whether they are working with clients or wanting to make changes in their own lives.

What is a Resourceful State of mind?

A calm awareness, giving an ability to reflect before acting, an increase in choice in response to any situation in life, an acceptance of the validity of any emotions, combined with an acknowledgement of their appropriate expression at any given time – a combination of creative impulse and logical thought …
Christine Miller

Resourceful states of mind are based on an ability to reflect on and in action, to operate from a chosen response rather than an impulse, and to have an inner mental sanctum, a reserve of strength to draw on when needed. Being able to reconnect to a positive and powerful experience can give confidence and build self-esteem, empowering a person to believe in themselves and in their potential.

How can I find out more?
Come to a Live training. Read more here. Chat with Christine.